Most parents only want what they want best for their children, and this sounds like what is happening in your case. However, some parents get a power-grip on their child´s lives, which is not at all fair. Explain to your mother about how you feel, and what you want. If she doesn´t sway, don´t feel down, you tried your best, and It´s her that is being stubborn. DO NOT however, become a rebel. Teens who smoke in protest to their parent´s intervention are fools, straight through, including those who use drugs like (In NZ) "P" or "Meth", as they´re killing themselves. Going through your teens is one of the hardest times of your lives. I assure you, mine were no picnic either, and you aren´t alone. If it gets too much, talk to a school councellor. Just bide your way through it, it´ll be over reasonably quickly.
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Ah yes, the "P" craze going on here is insane, so many frickin´ labs around the place. I agree with him, and if that fails you can always get emancipated. <img src=smilies/icon_smile_big.gif width=15 height=15 border=0 align=middle> It´s an axe, I use it to...hack at people
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@ fish, I agree, the "P" situation is getting out of control here.<img src=smilies/icon_smile_disapprove.gif width=15 height=15 border=0 align=middle> If only they got the Armed Defenders Squad out into the Labs, so many lives could be saved ..
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speaking as a parent (and still able to remember my own painful teenage years) I can say to you categorically that your parents do not hate you. They think, as most parents do, that a healthy life for their children is to be outside playing with friends, sports etc. and view computers as unhealthy obsessions and distractions for anything but homework. I try not to be like this even though my own parents were very much like yours in this respect, but I still throw my son (9) outside when it´s sunny because otherwise he´d just be glued to his Xbox/GC/N64/PS1/PC/SNES whatever 24/7 and forget to eat. The internet is also a verypowerful medium whose immediacy cuts through emotional barriers by virtue of its relative anonymity. Suddely you can voice opinions in a way thats often impossible at home which feels like a police state sometimes it´s that repressive. Am I not correct? I´ve already had this conversation with my daughter (15) and the simple matter is that you´ve got to compromise, then they will. Adolescents by nature it seems push the boundaries of what they´re allowed and parents can get very hostile and defensive about this, because they always see the little un they loved from a baby and not the young adult you´ve become. You have to make them see by example in what you do and waht you say that you are maturing and you can be responsible, then you get the respect and freedom from them that you clearly want. As far as emotional input is concerned, they don´t know how to relate to you; again they still percieve you as being 5 yrs old, whatever and the only way means have, especially mothers, to base a relationship with you on is as a small child to them. unf as they hold the whip hand so to speak, it´s up to you to demonstrate that you´re not a kid anymore, and in a postive way. My daughter (despite being totally disorganised and technically inept) is now at a level of emotional maturity that I can pretty much trust her with anything, whereas a few years ago I wouldn´t have let her do anything. While she has made a few spectacular balls-ups, on the whole she´s very dependable. She can be trusted in the house on her own for several days, she can get the tea on while we´re at work, she can be let loose with unrestricted net access (don´t worry i´ve been checking her logs for over a year, all perfectly acceptable) and keeps her interests and activities varied even though she is a complete nerd and doesnt go out that much. i know it´s hard, I never developed anything like that with my parents and left home as soon as I could and joined the Navy. My folks were very repressive catholics who wanted me to become a priest and denied me what I would consider basic freedoms. I went through several years of not even speaking to them, and relations with them in later years were always strained. But I was very rebellious and in retrospect if I´d chilled a bit and not got so frustrated and chosen different tactics in dealing with them rather than confrontation, things might have been different. But on the whole I think i turned out a better parent thx to their bad example!
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Yea that p sh*t is getting outta control. Arania, talking to your parents is the best thing to do, ask your mum or dad if they can take some time to have a chat with you, tell here about your problems and how you feel. Dont raise your voice or say anything that will get them annoyed. Your parents do love you and they will understand. I know talking to them is one of the hardest things you can do, and if you cant talk to your school counselor or a teacher, thats what their there for. Any way in a few years you´ll be old enough to leave.
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Hey justin, i know schools is really tough on you because your not one of the in crowd but WHO CARES i like i think your a great guy i love talking to ya about stuff and going to zone 3 and teaming up together and things like that who cares what people say at school there all deluted and there indesgressions will punished and accounted for on judgment day, you can talk to me buddy <img src=smilies/icon_smile_big.gif width=15 height=15 border=0 align=middle>
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Look justin i know that you are a great great guy and you treat people really good its just that you aint like us your are individual and that is not bad not bad at all, god sees your heart and knows that you suffer you will be blessed, i hope that i have made you feel a bit better cos i really enjoy your company REgards Daniel
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Taw has pretty much hit it on the head. Think about things, then talk to your parents.Ask them why they do what they do to get thier point of view. We see things that they do to us from our point of view, without knowing , Why. Things can and usually do work out, ifyou don´t stop communicating. Stop talking, things will get worse, because it will build up in side of you. <img src=smilies/icon_smile.gif width=15 height=15 border=0 align=middle>
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Arania, Hang in there buddy. I think it´s true that the teenage years are definitely the toughest. I know mine were. Let me assure you that you are not alone in how you feel, and there is light at the end of the tunnel. I don´t know if that is much consolation now, but just know that there are people thinking about you and encouraging you. Friends you´ve made here on TLR and even people you don´t even know, like me! <img src=smilies/icon_smile.gif width=15 height=15 border=0 align=middle> Just take it one day at a time. Your parents really do love you. But that doesn´t mean that they have everything figured out. You have to work WITH them to get through this crazy thing called life. Parents and children have disagreed since the dawn of time, but that has nothing to do with any lack of love. Try to remember that, especially when you are totally frustrated. Anyway, just wanted to say that there are people thinking about you and (at the risk of getting flamed, insulted, or possibly offending you), also praying for you. Hang in there. Wap
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I remember when I was first a teenager, my parents pushed me as hard as they could through junior high. As soon as I hit High School, they pretty much left me alone to let me make up my own mind on what I wanted to do. They tought me and my brother to be independant and to think for ourselves. I´m really grateful for that. "If it´s our time to die, it´s our time. All I ask is that when it´s our time, if we have to give these b******s our lives, WE GIVE ´EM HELL BEFORE WE DO!"